Monday, June 13, 2011

can you have it all? - 8 reasons the answer is no

It matters not how balanced, centered and altogether our lives may be. It really doesn’t.

Something or someone frequently suffers, inanimate and animate alike; namely our dreams we have for ourselves.

I’ll be frank.

Martha Stewart looked like she had it all together too and she did federal time, for.goodness.sake. Paula Deen, bless her heart. Her face gets photoshopped and airbrushed. Nobody’s got skin that smooth. Even at 25. Amen.

We’re all on a journey of discovery. Flaws and all.

I don’t plan on going to the pen, mind you, but I don’t always have the market cornered on balance either.

I want to be able to continue to travel and write.

I want it all. Do you?

Here’s 8, darn good reasons you can’t have it all:

  •  If you’re afraid of risk. Pick your measure of risk and take it. Put yourself out there. Your very first risk might be acknowledging a dream you’ve given up on (RV travel, world travel, career pursuit, or love).
  • If you can’t manage your time wisely. Don’t struggle with jobs you can’t do; barter or outsource it instead. Do you loaf around when a task needs doing? On the flip side, are you all work and no play? Time is a commodity.
  • If you believe what people (or your competitors) say about you. People will surely talk anyhow. Give them something real to talk about. Do you. And do it well. Shake the haters off, including yourself. Self-hate is not constructive.
  • If you don’t know where you’re headed. Are you only surviving in the mundane versus living your dream? Where would you like to be in 1 month, 6 months, 2 years? Think about the steps you need to take to get there. And start making it happen. Create a plan of action.
  • If you don’t ask for help, because you’ve got it like that. Seriously?! Are we kidding ourselves? There are very few people who are born into success. Most successful people are self-made. They make it happen with hard work and a bit of support. If you need help, get it. Trade the kids for a night so you can get things done. Is there an online class you need to take to educate yourself? Search engines are my best friend. I’m college uneducated ;-), but Google accredited.
  • If networking scares the crap right straight out of you. I’m getting over this. It doesn’t come easy to everyone. Don’t be afraid to approach people about things you have in common. More often than not, they are flattered and appreciative. Go ahead. Give someone a self-esteem boost today. One person leads to another person. Exponentially. People squared. I like that. I’ll have to use that sometime…
  • If you think it’ll happen overnight. Unless you or I hit the proverbial jackpot, or can employ an army at our disposal to help us, it most likely will not come to fruition ‘yesterday’. Stop waiting for the windfall. Put your gloves on and get to work. Go back to your plan and work it. Is the shortcut you’re taking now worth it in the long run? Don’t take on water later because you forego plugging the boat now.
  • If you take on too many projects. We can’t try to do it all and do it well. Are you a dreamer? Pick one to stay focused on at a time. It will get accomplished faster. Dreaming is nice, but most dreamers are not doers.

What are the reasons you can’t have it all?

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